30 Days To A Healthier, More “Fitter” You Series! (How do I get rid of my arm FLAB?)

Arm FlabOne of the most frequent questions that I get asked from women ALL OVER THE COUNTRY is:

“How do I get rid of the FLAB on the back side of my upper arms?”

First of all, the area of the arm that these women are referring to is the TRICEP area.

Triceps means ”three-headed muscle” and they are located down the back of your upper arm between your shoulder and your elbow.

The triceps are FLABBY in most women for TWO reasons.

1. We don’t use them very often and a woman’s skin behind her arms is thinner than in other parts of the body. 

2. This area is also a site of fat storage.

It is my belief that in order to get rid of the FLAB, you first have to LOVE yourself enough to ACCEPT every single flabby-inch of yourself.

What does the word FLAB mean anyway?  

Well, lets start by redefining the word by giving it a whole NEW meaning.

Let’s not accept the word FLAB to mean anything but Positive and beautiful in nature.  

Let’s instead accept and embrace our arm F.L.A.B as being;

  • Fabulous
  • Luscious
  • Attractive 
  • Beautiful

If you perceived your FLAB in this way, you wouldn’t want to get rid of it would you?

If you fully accepted your arm FLAB in this way, you would be PROUD of it and you would be BRAGGING about it to all of your girlfriends.

You would also be INSPIRED to wave at every person you met — just to show it off!!!

You would jump up and down and YELL out loud….

“Woooohoooo – Look at me and my Fabulous, Luscious, Attractive and Beautiful Arm Flab!!!”

All I’m saying is that once you begin to LOVE yourself, and I mean, every single IMPERFECT flabby-inch of yourself then you become less JUDGEMENTAL and more FORGIVING!

Trust Me – Your body is INTELLIGENT enough to know exactly how you FEEL about it.

If your attention is FOCUSED on all the things that you dislike about it — how do you think that makes your body feel?

With this ATTITUDE do you really think that your body will want to SUPPORT you in creating the triceps of your dreams?

Absolutely NOT!!

Wouldn’t it therefor be much more advantageous to make FRIENDS with your body by loving it enough to give it the gift of health and acceptance?

In taking this approach you are working “with” your body instead of against it.

In order to tone up – you “first” have to give your body the gift of health and acceptance in the following ways:

  • Eat fresh whole foods grown straight from the earth.
  • Appreciate your body for the many ways that it serves you here on earth.
  • Speak kindly to your body because it hears absolutely everything you say about it!
  • Stay properly hydrated by drinking plenty of fresh water and eat foods that protect and restore your cell membranes.
  • Get plenty of rest so that your body can function optimally.
  • Move your body every single day in ways that keep your heart, bones and muscles strong, pliable and flexible.

Enjoy being YOU, exactly as you are!!

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Healthy Blessings,

~ Gena Livings 


  1. Great post! Anything that makes my life easier to be healthier, I’m all for it.

    It has to be about the joyful journey for me.

    Thanks for the great info.


    • Absolutely Kathy and thank you for commenting on this. Like you, I love to exercise but in ways that I enjoy where it doesn’t feel like work. It’s all about the joyful journey!! The whole “secret” to effective exercise is consistency. A person is much more apt to become consistent in their exercise routine if they they simply enjoy what they are doing. It really is that simple and that effective. It’s also important to appreciate and accept every part of our body as being a lovely creation. When we focus our attention on all the things we love and appreciate about our body, our body begins to mold itself into perfect form.
      Healthy Blessings,

  2. Great article Gena,
    I am grateful for my how my body looks and feels. My body is so much stronger with regular exercise and taking good care of myself. Thank you for all of your wisdom that you share.
    Sending you love and light

    • Bonnie,
      That is such a wonderful thing to appreciate the body that you are in and your body appreciates it also! Continued blessings on your heath and well-being!

      Sending you love and light,

  3. Oh my lord Gena!!!

    What a great article…I just wrote about May being my month for movement and one of the areas I am working with is my body 🙂

    I shall figure out how to link this post to my blog tomorrow so people can get the right foundation in place to do that.

    Now I shall click on the link for your information 🙂 Thanks!

    • I just read your post Jean and I just love what you are doing with May month for movement!! How wonderful! I was so happy to read everything that you wrote and I also responded. I tried to subscribe to your blog feed but I was given an error. Hopefully I can link up with you as I love what you are doing!
      Healthy blessings,

  4. What a wonderful post! I love the F.L.A.B. acronym which I am going to adopt for other things, too! Sleeveless tops take on a whole new meaning with that kind of thinking!

    • I’m so glad you enjoyed this post Deb! I just had to find a way to give our arm F.L.A.B. a positive light so I came up with that acronym! I too now can wear my sleeveless tops with confidence and pride!! Have a great day!
      Healthy blessings,
      Gena 🙂

  5. I was intrigued by the title of the blog. I hate arms with a vengeance. Even when I was skinny and weight training (trained hard from 21 until my late 30’s), they never looked anything other than ugly. They did look wonderful covered up.

    And now at the grand age of 52 I have come to a quiet acceptance – arms are still best covered up because now they really need to be.

    I have no idea why I have an arm fixation – it does make me laugh.

    • Jackqui,
      You are not the only one with an arm fixation, although your comment made me giggle. 🙂
      I hope my post today made you smile in the same way that you made me smile!
      Healthy blessings,

  6. What a fab article, Gena. I can almost feel your enthusiasm shining through your words! You’ve inspired me to get off the couch and do some stretching. Oh – and I highly recommend pushing a wheelchair up and down the hills of your town to tone up the bingo wings! I’ve found that works for me, anyway. Just thought I’d mention it. 🙂

    • Hahaha Susan!!
      I will take your recommendation and start pushing that wheelchair up and down the hills to tone up the bingo wings! I love it, you have inspired my next blog post!!
      Healthy Blessings and thanks for the fun!
      Gena 🙂

  7. What an inspiring article! Hm, it will take a lot of reflection for me to make peace with my batwings (my affectionate term for the jiggle back there). Might have to post your FLAB acronym on my bathroom mirror.

    • Hahahaha! Corinne, I have been given so many interesting and creative terms today for our sacred arm FLAB. Batwings is a new one!!
      Make peace, it’s all good!!! And by the way, I have that acronym on my bathroom mirror!!!
      Healthy Blessings and thank you for the giggle,
      Gena Livings

  8. What wonderful suggestions! I totally agree with you. I have added using 5-10 pound hand weights, wall exercises and sometimes resistance tubes to my exercises etc.

    • Wow! That’s great Liz!
      Those are all great forms of exercise!!
      Thank you for responding.
      Healthy Blessings,
      Gena 🙂

  9. Gena,
    I must confess, when I first began reading this, I was not greatly interested in learning about what I already thought I knew and expected you to say. Admittedly, I did already know much of what you wrote about. However, the way you formatted it kept me reading and I was greatly pleased to see that the direction I was expecting you to head in was the opposite of the direction you went.

    “All I’m saying is that once you begin to LOVE yourself, and I mean, every single IMPERFECT flabby-inch of yourself then you become less JUDGEMENTAL and more FORGIVING!”

    This is such a huge statement.

    My healing and recovery process is teaching me that I am much more judgmental and unforgiving toward myself than I try to be with others. That root of judgmentalism and unforgiveness kept me in cycles of toxic co-dependency with others and demotivated me until my body became the very thing I remember telling someone to “put me out of my misery” if I ever became that way, over 20 years ago when I was in my late teens/early twenties. It has been a huge, self-inflicted curse.

    True change does not happen from the outside in. It only happens from the inside out. If you aren’t yet willing and able to examine, accept and forgive the internals, then external changes will not last.


    • Kina,
      I am so delighted that you read my posting today and that it touched you in that way that it did.
      “I so agree what you said about “change does not happen from the outside in – it only happens from the inside out. If you aren’t yet willing and able to examine, accept and forgive the internals, then the external changes will not last.” AMEN to that!

      authentic self-love is about true acceptance and loving of oneself unconditionally…FLAWS and all. It is an act of loving and being happy with whom you are right NOW. It’s an agreement with yourself to appreciate, validate, accept and support who you are at this very moment. Once your perception “shifts” from being perfect on the outside to being “healthy” on the inside, you will wake up each day feeling refreshed, renewed and restored in a whole new body and in a whole new frame of mind.

      Thank you so very much for your comment and sharing a part of your story with me.
      Healthy Blessings to you with much joy ahead!
      Gena 🙂

  10. Hi Gena

    Love your post – and yes, we need to love all those bits of flab that seem to appear as we get older – it’s given a new meaning to middle age spread for me 🙂

  11. I loved your blog post, was thinking it was going to give me exercises to get rid of the flab, but actually gave me inside on loving myself as it is! Although, I love to exercise, I do it because I love how strong I am becoming on the inside and outside!

    • I am so glad that you enjoyed my post! It really is all about loving every bit of your body right now, having fun and enjoying exercises that make you feel good! Life and healthy living is just so much more enjoyable when we take the pressure off ourselves to be perfect. Enjoy everything about yourself and all the good stuff will follow. Enjoy your day!
      Healthy Blessings,
      Gena Livings 🙂

  12. Carissa Pelletier

    Great way to make FLAB a good thing! Being friends with your body is definitely better than being enemies.

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