How To Change Negative Thoughts To Happy Thoughts!

happyperson.jpgMost people can relate with the fact that sometimes, it’s just hard to always see things in a positive light.

From time to time, there will be self-doubt that makes you feel afraid.  

Self-doubt becomes an overwhelming obstacle whose voice is so loud in your mind that you begin to believe the messages are actually true.

You don’t always have to be happy every single minute of the day. We all experience moments of unhappiness.

When your unhappiness is prolonged, due to negative thinking, however, that’s when it’s time to challenge the negative thoughts.  

Here are a few examples of what negative thinking sounds like:

  • I’m not smart enough.
  • No one will like me.
  • I will fail.
  • I suck at everything.
  • I can’t do anything right.
  • I am not worth anything. 
  • I have never accomplished anything.
  • I always make mistakes. 
  • I don’t deserve a good life. 
  • I am stupid.

And the list goes on…

You may give yourself these negative messages so often that you are hardly even aware of them.

Here is a way to start noticing and changing negative thoughts to positive ones:

Start paying attention to any negative thoughts that come to mind. 

Carry a small pad with you as you go about your daily routine for several days and jot down any negative thoughts about yourself whenever you notice them coming to mind.  

Refer to the fifteen styles of distorted thinking to help you gain awareness around your thinking. 

Take a closer look at your negative thought patterns to check out whether or not they are actually true.

You may want a close friend or mentor to help you with this. When you are in a good mood and when you have a positive attitude about yourself, ask yourself the following questions about each negative thought you have noticed:

  • How much do you believe that this thought is true?
  • What evidence is there that what I am thinking is true?
  • What evidence is there that this thought is not true?
  • What would I tell someone I loved if they were in this situation and had these thoughts?
  • If what I am thinking is true, what is the worst that could happen?
  • If what I am thinking is true, what is the best thing that could happen?
  • What do I get out of thinking this thought? If it makes me feel badly about myself, why not stop thinking it?

Begin to develop positive statements that you can say to yourself to replace negative thoughts when you notice yourself thinking them.

You can do this by folding a piece of paper in half the long way to make two columns.

In one column write your negative thought and in the other column write a positive thought that contradicts the negative thought.

You can’t think two thoughts at the same time. When you are thinking a positive thought about yourself, you can’t be thinking a negative one. In developing positive thoughts, use positive words like happy, peaceful, loving, enthusiastic and warm.

Avoid using negative words such as worried, frightened, upset, tired, bored, not, never and can’t.

Don’t make a statement like “I am not going to worry any more.” Instead say “I will focus on the positive.” Substitute “it would be nice if” for “should.” Always use the present tense, for example, “I am healthy, I am well, I am happy and I have a good job.”

Replace a negative thought with a positive one every time you realize you are thinking a negative thought.

Repeat your positive thoughts over and over to yourself, out loud whenever you get a chance and even share them with another person if possible.

It helps to reinforce the positive thought if you repeat it over and over to yourself when you are deeply relaxed, like when you are doing a deep-breathing or relaxation exercise or when you are just falling asleep or waking up.

positivesayings.jpgExample of Positive Thoughts

  • I am a valuable person. 
  • I have accomplished many things. 
  • I do many things well.
  • I am a great person. 
  • I deserve to be happy and healthy.    
  • I am smart.

Make signs of your positive thoughts and hang them in places where you will see them often—like on your refrigerator door or on the mirror in your bathroom—and repeat the thoughts to yourself several times when you see them.

Changing negative thoughts you have about yourself to positive ones takes time and persistence.

If you follow these steps consistently for four to six weeks, you will notice that you don’t think negative thoughts about yourself as much.

If your negative thoughts recur at another time, you can repeat these steps.

Don’t give up! You deserve to think good thoughts about yourself. This promises to raise your self-esteem. 

When you take action against your negative thoughts by identifying them, challenging them, and learning from the experience, you can break the painful experience of negative thoughts that are ruining your life.  

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Healthy Blessings,

Gena Livings

Source:   strengthofus


  1. I’ve learned for me that the trick for affirmations is to make them a little bit currently true. For example instead of “I’m at X weight” (when I’m not) I will say, “I am heading toward X lbs.” – that way my mind doesn’t fire back with “No you’re not X lbs!”
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    • Hi D.J.
      I agree! The subconscious mind has the ability, in anything it accepts as true, to do whatever it takes to turn it into reality. The purpose of an affirmation is to pass a message to the subconscious mind, and to make it “believe” the message is true. So whatever affirmation is powerful and believable for “you” then that is the one to use!!

      Thank you so much for commenting today!
      Healthy blessings,
      Gena 🙂

  2. Negative thoughts can slip in so easily. I have done this as well writing down positive for the negative ones. It helps a lot.
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    • Hello Jill

      Most of the time we simply think without awareness of our thoughts similar to breathing without thinking about our breathe so by writing down the positive for the negative is a great way to build awareness around your thoughts.

      Thanks for your comment and making positive thinking part of your daily practice!!
      Healthy blessings,
      Gena 🙂

  3. Hi Gena. Fabulous post, with lots of practical ways for us to lighten up our thinking about ourselves. When I first started exercises like this I was really surprised by the amount of negative thoughts and beliefs I had about myself. For a while I beat myself up for being so unloving and harsh towards myself. Then I realised this was another negative thought about myself, so I started to let myself off the hook. It took a while, but with commitment and awareness I was able to make big changes to the way I thought about myself. I also enlisted the help of a friend, and was quite shocked how differently they viewed me to the way I did. They were far more loving and compassionate, and were able to see things about me that I couldn’t. Nice things that is!! Good friends are invaluable for pointing out all the lovely things about us that we don’t necessarily know about. After all, they like us for a reason! Great post! Blessings to you, Gena. Andrea

    • Hello Andrea,
      Again, you brought up such an “GREAT” point about the importance of friendship and how that element pertains to our overall well-being.

      The better quality relationships we have; the more likely we are to be happy! 🙂

      Having a strong support system (friends) is one of the best ways for us to maintain a positive mind-set. If you want to grow and realize your best self and become more positive, you need to surround yourself with positive nourishing people who will keep you motivated when you are feeling down and give you that extra push when you need it. Friends often see the goodness and beauty in us that we are unable see in ourselves.

      Thank you for bringing this forward!!
      Healthy blessings,
      Gena 🙂

  4. Hi Gena,

    Yes, it is virtually impossible to have postive and negative thoughts on my head. When a negative thought comes to my head in terms of why I feel the way I do. I tend to get to the core and ask myself questions. When I find myself asking better questions then the negative emotions start to dissipate. Thank you for sharing Gena!
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    • Hi Nate!
      I love it! 🙂
      I love to hear that when negative thoughts enter your mind you challenge those thoughts by asking questions! The more you continue to challenge the negative thoughts with better questions the negativity dissipates!! Indeed!!! YES!!! When we bring the Light of positive thought to our dark places, the negativity cannot survive.

      Thanks for the great comment!
      Healthy blessings,
      Gena 🙂

  5. Gena
    Another great article that you share full of many highlights which I noted
    Self-doubt becomes an overwhelming obstacle whose voice is so loud in your mind that you begin to believe the messages are actually true.

    A great reminder- Just what I needed to hear – “You don’t always have to be happy every single minute of the day. We all experience moments of unhappiness”

    I love the pad idea — great suggestion, I forgot this great wisdom of yours. I seem to carry the thick binders of wisdom and loose blank paper that is getting heavy with me. LOL

    Thanks for sharing the questions and affirmations.
    Sending you love and light.
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